Blog Tag: shame
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The Temple is More than a Milestone
Guest Post by Nicole Sbitani. Nicole is an adult convert, a non-Black woman of color, and a professional diplomat. She blogs at nandm.sbitani.com and writes microfiction @nsbitani on Twitter. The content of this post does not represent the views of the U.S. Department of State or any other U.S. Government agency, department, or entity. The thoughts and opinions expressed here are solely those of the author and in no way should be associated with the U.S. Government.
I can’t count the number of times a friend whispered to me, voice heavy with shame, that they didn’t “get” the Temple. Or...
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Internalized Racism Hinders Family History Work
By Michelle Franzoni Thorley
Today I want to continue our discussion about family history for people of color by addressing how shame prevents us from engaging in generational healing and family history. This post is for Black, Indigenous, People of Color (BIPOC) but anyone is welcome to learn more about family history for people of color. What is internalized racism, as it relates to BIPOC? For people of color, or people of indigenous or African descent, internalized racism may lead to racist and shameful thoughts or feelings about themselves or their ancestors.
Many BIPOC people who struggle with internal racism may...
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The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood | Julie de Azevedo-Hanks | TEDxOgden
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XlC8XqTSLUE
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When Depression Returns…
On Monday this week, I began ketamine treatments for treatment-resistant depression. I had heard I would get relief much more quickly than with traditional SSRI’s, so I was hopeful. I wrote this yesterday, feeling ready to be done with everything. I was frustrated and tired and angry. But, this morning, I went for my usual mental health run, and I saw the wildflowers on the path. I came home and saw my husband blow drying my daughter’s hair so that it would look just like Violet Baudelaire’s, and those small things brought me joy.
If the following resonates with you,...
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Toxic Mormon Masculinity: How Patriarchy Poisons our Men and Boys
Patriarchy in Mormonism negatively impacts men and boys by afflicting them with shame, anxiety, and unrealistic expectations. I term this “Toxic Mormon Masculinity.”
When I’ve written about a particular effect that our patriarchal church system has on women, like breastfeeding in church or how we respond to a young woman’s outfit, readers are sometimes curious about my thoughts on how men can be affected as well.
Today I’ll tackle that request by taking a closer look at the ways gender essentialism (the idea that our innate traits and attributes are due to our sex) and patriarchy (a gender-based hierarchy...
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Redemption in Baking
I served this imperfect cheesecake. It was sweet, silky, and lemony puddle, and I knew I was more than someone who couldn’t get the shape of my cheesecake just right.
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Guest Post: Is Forsaking Masturbation Really God’s Law?
by Mahlah.
As a student majoring in Child Development, I remember wondering and discussing, if masturbation is a part of normal sexual development, at what point does it become a sin? In light of recent dialogue surrounding the petition to protect LDS children, and how many of the stories relate the shame of masturbation, I have reflected again what it means if the church (whose only official stance I can find is in the For Strength of Youth pamphlet) is truly saying that masturbation – across the board – is a sin.
What does it mean for the children of parents...
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Guest Post: Worthy of Being Known #MormonMeToo
by Mahlah
“And this is life eternal that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom thou has sent.” There is something profoundly beautiful about intimacy. Humans have a deep desire to be fully known. We long to see and be seen. To love and be loved. And yet, we feel unworthy of that closeness. We feel we must hide our dark parts, our imperfections and our weaknesses in order to be valued. We hide in shame.
To have someone acknowledge the goodness in you and to love you despite all your darkness is powerful beyond measure....
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Guest Post: My Story #MormonMeToo
This post is an excerpt from a letter Mahlah wrote and sent to her church leaders.
by Mahlah
When I was on my mission I had an experience that is to this day difficult for me to speak of. We saw naked men here and there, usually old and drunk. Not such a big deal. But one day as my companion and I knocked on a door, a man opened it wearing just a robe (again not uncommon for where I was serving) and invited us in. We sat down on his couch and waited while he, presumably, went to put...
What is Exponent II?
Exponent II provides Mormon feminist forums for women and gender minorities across the Mormon spectrum to share their diverse life experiences in an atmosphere of trust and acceptance. Through these exchanges, we strive to create a community to better understand and support each other.
Exponent II was founded in 1974 by a group of Mormon women in Cambridge, Massachusetts. These women were inspired by the original periodical, “The Woman’s Exponent,” to create a forum “posed on the dual platforms of Mormonism and Feminism.”
For 50+ years, Exponent II has shared women’s voices in its quarterly magazine, and members of the community have convened at an annual retreat. Our reach has expanded as technology has advanced: the blog, founded in January 2006, has reached millions. As we look to the future, we are focused on growth and building a more inclusive community.
