An Exponent II reader writes, “I am a thirty-something new mom. Over the years, I have made peace with my identity as a Mormon. I like getting involved, helping the sisters in my ward, teaching quietly feminist gospel doctrine lessons. Despite the rough road its been, I like being a bridge-builder. I’m stubborn and don’t want cultural elements to drive me away from my birthright.
This question from the Exponent II reader was an interesting one to contemplate. As the mom of a 2 year old daughter, I did feel some angst when I was contemplating her baby blessing. I felt more peace about my husband being the only voice speaking our hopes and blessings for our son. But with my daughter, something just seemed wrong about that exclusively male voice talking about her woman’s life. I was only able to make peace with our at home male-voiced baby blessing when I decided that I would also bless her surrounded by a community of Mormon women.
As for all the other stuff she will be encountering in the Church, I’m going to try to be on top of those subtle and not subtle messages every week, asking her to question them, asking if x and y seem right, asking her how she would improve the lesson to make it better for girls, etc. She’ll see me doing a lot of the same so hopefully that will show her a way to be a Mormon woman that doesn’t buy into ideas that constrain her.